It was just a little thing.
He moved my van…just a short few inches. But those short inches moved my heart also.
What am I talking about? My husband did something remarkably sweet and unexpected.
Yesterday morning, before he left for work, my sweet man pulled his car out of the garage then moved my van over about twelve inches to make it easier for me to get in. It was raining outside and he kept me from having to get wet.
Why am I telling you this, why am I mentioning a seemingly small, insignificant thing like this?
Because he moved me towards loving him more! He showed his love toward me by doing a small thing not expecting anything in return. He moved my heart as he moved my van.
Think about it. How do you tell your husband you love him? Has your husband done anything for you lately to show his love? Have you missed it because you haven’t been looking? What small, seemingly insignificant thing have you done for your man lately to tell him you love him? What have you done to show him he is the most important person in your life?
Moving my van meant much more than just moving my van.
By moving my van over a few inches to make it easier to get in and not get wet, he showed me he loved me. I can take this further and count numerous ways this shows love toward me. It meant:
- He cares to keep me from getting wet before I leave for work so he cares about what I do during the day.
- He thought of me before he left for work. If he thought of me then, he’ll be thinking of me throughout the day also?
- He did this without me asking, what else has he done for me that I hadn’t asked? Did I miss it? Did I forget to say thank you for something?
It is easier to climb the mountains when the path is lined with small steps.
If problems and challenges in our marriages can be seen as mountains, each of us will face mountains in our marriages. We have faced many already. But I want to assure you, as you stand at the base of your mountain and try to see to the top, and when you realize you have to go over the mountain together or give up, I can assure you the climb is worth it. Wouldn’t it be nice if the climb to the top was lined with the steps of the small insignificant things?
So many times I’ve heard said, “it is the little things that count.” In this case, those little inches he moved the van, moved my heart also. Let’s be looking for the little, insignificant things to make each other happy.
This happened five years ago and yet it feels like yesterday.
I believe a good marriage is not made up of the big things, such as a beautiful wedding or the birth of a child or a huge move across the country, big job promotion or even the amount of money you can each contribute. A good marriage is made by doing these good little things everyday. The seemingly mundane tasks become a welcome privilege when done for the right reason.
What defines a “small, insignificant thing?”
Each marriage is a unique relationship between two people. I can only tell you a few of our “small things” that work in our marriage.
- Always having cold water in the refrigerator, never taking the last one without replacing it.
- Two different types of toothpaste, we don’t like the same flavor.
- Saying thank you often.
- Respect and patience concerning each other’s personal space, especially important living in the small space of an RV.
- Volume of music is always negotiable.
Mountains are made of ridges.
When you get over one, there is often another to climb. What are the “small things” in your marriage or what could you be doing to turn these mountains into small boulders? I would love to have you share one or two things you can do or are already doing to share the love in your household. It could be by your sharing you could help strengthen another marriage. Let me know.