When you no longer have your mother.
On the second Sunday in May, many of us will be thinking of our mothers. I know I will. Yet I won’t be visiting her. Although my mother has been gone from this world for over 25 years, each second Sunday in May, I stop to think about her and tell her, even if it is only speaking into the air, “thank you Mom.”
Though my mother is no longer with me, it doesn’t stop me from wanting to honor her memory, as did the founder of Mother’s Day, Anna Jarvis. The history of National Mother’s Day begins in Grafton, WV. I’ve been through the small town and have seen the church where Ms. Jarvis began her journey to make this one special day a tribute to honor mothers everywhere.
Ms. Jarvis believed every one’s mother was “the person who has done more for you than any one else.” Her mother, Mrs. Ann Reeves Jarvis, worked hard to care for others on both sides of the Civil War. She was a peace activist during her lifetime. After her mother’s death, Ms. Anna Jarvis held a memorial for her in 1905 at St. Andrews Methodist Church in Grafton, WV, thus becoming the first celebration of motherhood. To this day, a shrine remains entitled the “International Mother’s Day Shrine.”
Though she began her campaign in 1905 to make Mother’s Day a national holiday, it did not become one until 1911 with the first celebration being held in Grafton, WV. In 1914, Woodrow Wilson signed a proclamation, proclaiming the second Sunday in May as National Mother’s Day. It didn’t take long for card makers, candy makers and florists to begin the commercialization of mother’s special day. Angering Anna Jarvis, she battled in court, and failed, to stop these companies, her argument being the day is all about being sentimental and nothing commercial. She believed people should write their own cards and poems for their mothers. Fast forward 110 years and Ms. Jarvis campaign to honor mother’s still happens each second Sunday in May. While most of us mothers probably will not receive a handwritten card, let alone a poem written by your child, we will all remember our mothers. If you are a mother yourself, someone will be thinking of you too.
I learned to celebrate even though I am not sentimental.
I raised sons. Anyone that knows me will tell you I am not a sentimental person. My husband never gave me a Mother’s Day card, because in his words, “you’re not my mother.” The first few years of being a mother I would argue with him telling him I wouldn’t be a mother if it weren’t for him. This never changed his mind. But not being too sentimental, I really didn’t care, I wasn’t his mother. He had a beautiful mother. I encouraged him to make sure he spent time with her and never miss the special day with her. I’m glad I did because I have no regrets. He cared for his mother and he cares for me also. His heart is certainly big enough for both. He has since lost her but I realize the loving man I am married to today is because of this beautiful woman.
Neither my husband nor myself have our mother’s any longer. Because we do not have our moms, this causes us to want to honor other mothers. Here are a few ideas we enjoy doing. Maybe you would also like to honor someone elses mother, feel free to use these suggestions or add your own in the comment section below. We’d love to hear how you celebrate Mother’s Day with someone else’s Mom.
We suggest you:
- Take someone’s Mother to dinner.
- Surprise a cashier with a flower, carnations are the usual Mother’s Day treat.
- Candy is nice and it doesn’t have to be a big box. You can find small boxes of four pieces of candy at the corner drugstores. Have a couple of these on hand to surprise someone.
- How about picking up a few extra mother day cards to have on hand in the weeks before the special day. If you think of someone, send them a card in the mail.
- Phone calls are nice and you don’t have to talk long. Think of someone across the country you haven’t seen in a long time. Call her just to say “hi” and “Happy Mother’s Day.”
There doesn’t need to be a large amount of money spent to honor someone’s mother. It truly is the thought that counts.