God created marriage as a covenant commitment between a man and a woman. It is a legal and spiritual, lifelong relationship between husband and wife.
To keep a marriage relationship strong, there must be work involved. The marriage relationship, more than any other human relationship, is the most important relationship of which you will ever be part. The work needed to keep marriages strong comes in many forms: thankfulness, forgiveness, grace, intimacy, serving, trust, humor, sex, sharing, communication, honesty…and more! And surrounding all these is PRAYER.
Yet all to often, though, we forget or we get too busy, to pray for the man God has brought into our life, the very man we committed to spend the rest of our life with…the one we promised to love and honor…the one with the smelly feet and the big-boy toys filling the garage, the man with the “honey-do” list six months old. That man!
Learning to pray for our husbands is just that: Learn to pray for him! Ken and I have been married over 40 years. Trust me when I say, there was much of that time I didn’t want to pray for him and I wouldn’t have known how if I did. But I learned. Each marriage is different, yet all women need to learn to pray for our husband. So,
WHY SHOULD WE PRAY FOR OUR HUSBANDS?
“…a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one Now the man and his wife were naked and they felt no shame.” Genesis 2: 24, 25
In the beginning, God created a marriage union to be perfect. And it was! until the first bite of forbidden fruit and all human life changed!
In the above two verses, God had a distinct order for marriage.
- a parting of the son from his family, to form a new family unit once married.
- the bonding of husband and wife, a commitment to their future.
- the two become one, both in mind and body
- an intimate relationship develops between two people.
Fortunately our marriages, yes, the marriage between two sinful people, (the slob and the cleaner or the perfectionist and the lackadaisical or other opposites) can be all God intended for us since the beginning. despite this sin, if we commit to pray for our husbands and our marriages. But,
WHAT SHOULD WE PRAY FOR OUR HUSBANDS?
First thing to pray for in marriages, is the union between two people. To become a partner for life, in a happy marriage, pray first to have the partnership become strong and stay strong in the ever-changing world. The marriage is strengthened when we understand the world, or the enemy, does not want our marriages to survive. There will be a constant bombardment of temptations, distractions, and dissatisfactions unless we pray for God to remove and protect against these.
Second, pray for the intimacy of your marriage. Marriage is a pleasurable institution and not drudgery. Having an intimate relationship doesn’t mean sexual relationship. Intimacy and sexual relationships are completely different. To have an intimate relationship with your husband is to share details of your life with him that are not shared with anyone else. Intimacy is built over time. When you have an intimate relationship with your husband, there will be trust, respect and a desire to share more and more. Pray for God to show you how to be a more intimate partner for your husband. Ask God to show you how you can deepen the level of trust and respect for the man He has given you.
Third, pray for the shortcomings you both have. Marriage is tough and often challenged. We can get tied up in the “blame game” or this statement “well, you did this so I…!” Marriage is no place for the entitlement mentality or for any allowance of bitterness. Let’s be honest, none of us is perfect. Both will fall short of God’s standards for being in a marriage. Pray God will show you your shortcomings. Pray als0, God will show you the shortcomings of your spouse. When God answers this prayer, pray He will give you the strength to change yours and the desire and courage to work with, and not against, those of your husband.
Fourth, pray for the things your husband wants from you. Pray you may become the God-designed wife your husband desires. In the Bible, we are given ways to pray for our husbands. Just look at the Proverbs 31 woman for clues. Read Ephesians and 1 Corinthians. Here are a few verses to look into for ideas for which you can pray:
- Ephesians 5:33 “…the wife respect her husband.” He wants respect, so pray for respect for him in all areas: his work, his accomplishments, his positive traits.
- Mark 10:8 “…the two become one.” He married you for companionship, so pray for mutual interests, a desire to hear about his work, and a desire to just listen to his voice.
- 1 Corinthians 7: 3,4 “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs the wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.” Pray you may fulfill your husbands needs. Pray protection over his eyes, his ears and his hands as he is away from you. Temptation looms close by, pray a protection over him as he watches TV or sees billboards assaulting his senses.
ENJOYING THE BENEFITS OF PRAYING FOR YOUR HUSBAND
Did you notice, all the time you are praying for your husband, you will also be praying or yourself? This is only right. As the Bible says, “…and the two shall become one.” The benefits which come from praying for your husband will benefit you both mutually. You will find:
- more intimacy
- more trust
- more desire for him sexually
- stronger bond between the two of you
- strength to withstand the enemy
- less friction between you both
- a greater commitment to stay together
- and many, many more.
I would love to hear from you. How are you praying for your husband? Do you pray for your husband?